I was never an avid reader of seventeen magazine. It just really wasn't my thing. But the other day, a friend of mine had a cut out article featuring some neat toast recipes. Okay, cool. However, upon turning the article over, there was something horrific on the other side:
Advice on how young girls should act around their crushes and other real world situations. And upon looking at the date at the bottom of the page, it had been published in February of this year.
Now, the few times I did glance at a seventeen article on this very topic, the advice seemed pretty reasonable. Things like have confidence in yourself, find your true self so you can be yourself around him, at least pretend you have a life even if you don't, etc. Most importantly, there was also advice on how to deal with rejection because in the real world, there is a chance that your crush just isn't into you. Advice saying that it might suck at first, but it really doesn't have a lot to do with you. You will move on and find someone worth your time.
Now that is from older issues from about ten to twenty years ago.
What could they be telling young women now in our more enlightened time of 2016?
- Instead of stalking your crush on Instagram or Snap Chat, go to a secluded area of your house, sit cross legged and imagine the two of you taking a cute selfie together. And when you are in your crush's presence, bask in that fantasy. That's right, don't go try to strike up a conversation or walk by him like you own yourself. Nope. Go inside of yourself, leave reality behind and daydream when in his presence. - If someone says something rude to you on social media, instead of maybe just ignoring them, blocking them or (if appropriate), confronting them, set your phone down and say "peace begins with me..." - If you want to ask your parents to extend your curfew or for a raise, don't concoct some strategy to prepare and persuade. Instead chant "I am Love" with a boss babe attitude (yes, they actually said 'boss babe') as you approach them.
Some of these techniques are rooted in meditation. I will clarify that I don't have a problem with meditation in itself. I think it can be a great way to focus and clear your mind of junk that it doesn't need. I don't even have a problem with wanting to escape reality once in a while. But I found the suggested use of this in a seventeen article rather disturbing as it was put in a way that discouraged facing the reality of the real world, therefore setting them up for massive disappointment and little to no ability in handling the harsh world. It is prepping them to be in a passive state of mind and for being in a constant state of victim hood.
I will elaborate more in my forthcoming post, "Are People Stupid?"
Today will be bringing you some short fun findings from the research I've been doing. So here goes:
1.) Why was King Henry VIII such a tyrant and what did he really think of Anne Boleyn?
Historians have debated this quite frequently over the years, including one of my new favorite historians, Suzannah Lipscomb. Lipscomb has done extensive research on the 16th century monarch. One thing she does note (in her book 1536: The Year that Changed Henry VIII and her documentary Henry and Anne: The Lovers Who Changed History) is the head injury Henry received upon falling from his horse while jousting. In fact, before he became the morbidly obese, mean spirited tyrant modern folks know him for being, he was quite the opposite: charming, good-natured, generous, athletic, and very good looking. There is also much evidence, including letters written from Henry to Anne, that attest to him being very much in love with Anne Boleyn when he decided to divorce Catherine of Aragon and be with her instead. In fact, according to many sources, he basically rocked England to its core in order to pave a way for him to legally marry Anne. And you don't just do that for someone 'you sort of like' as a side dish. Therefore, I - as of now - agree with Lipscomb and others when they say that Henry really did love Anne.
So what changed?
Of course, several factors are said to have played a role in changing Henry, his attitude toward Anne, and his disposition in general. One of these factors being his head injury. According to Lipscomb's documentary and conversation with a neurologist, it seems that Henry experienced brain damage to the point of not only completely changing his personality and disposition but to making him extremely paranoid, hence why he seemed to believe not only in Anne's infidelity but that she was plotting with others to have him killed. While Lipscomb and many of her contemporaries do not necessarily believe that Anne was guilty of all she was charged with, they do think that Henry honestly believed that she was.
2.) Could property and church politics have played a role in the witch trials of Salem?
Recenlty, I finished the book Escaping Salem by Richard Godbeer. In the book, Godbeer delves into a witch trial in Connecticut and is yet another person explaining how these trials were not often so cut and dry. In fact, the towns were divided with some defending the accused woman or man and others being all for the accused being convicted. Even the clergy weren't as quick to condemn (the big mean father-son duo, Increase and Cotton Mather, are documented as saying that it is better to have 10 witches walk free than it is to have one innocent person wrongfully executed) and the justice systems had many hurdles in place for the accusers to get over. So as I've said in previous postings, the Hollywood stereotype of a group of men baring torches and pitchforks pulling a helpless woman from her home and to the stake she was to be burned at was not, according to many sources, the norm. Particularly in America where many founders and authorities wanted to curb the hysteria that was spread across several areas of Europe.
Now, I am currently reading Salem Possessed, which discusses the social origins of witchcraft and would likely explain much of what propelled these trials. Yes, there was a lot of drama brewing within the clergy and politicians of Salem and I look forward to bringing you my findings.
3.) Bare-breasted teas (which is exactly what it sounds like)
Hundreds of years ago, everyone was super modest and buttoned up. Even the thought of exposed ankles were enough to send someone to the fainting couch. Well, not really, or at least not to that point of severity. In fact, in some ways, our predecessors did things that would make many in our day and age blush.
I will not only refer to Abby Cox's article, Revealing the Truth About 18th Century Women's Necklinesbut also books like Jane Pettigrew's A Social History of Tea which explains how women not only drank tea while 'bare-breasted' but also received visitors and callers in this state. As of now, I have no idea how or why this was a thing, but it apparently was.
4.) Tattoos were sported by both men and women during the Victorian and Edwardian eras, and the first (known) female tattoo artist
Yes, individuals of the supposedly prudish Victorian era sported tattoos. And it was a thing among the upper class. Men and women often had their family crest tattooed somewhere on his or her body, and some women even had the names of their fiances or husbands tattooed onto her skin.
When Vaudeville was in its heyday, heavily tattooed women and men were quite an attraction, but this along with military men getting rather vulgar tattoos also contributed to making them more taboo.
The Broke Costumer has done a good job with researching not only Victorian and Edwardian tattoos, but also Maud Stevens Wagner, the first (known) female tattoo artist (and she actually uses the more grammatically correct female tattoo artist as opposed to the irritating and grammatically incorrect women tattoo artist). And according to her Wikipedia page, Maud's daughter Lotteva followed in the footsteps of her parents, also becoming a tattoo artist. Lotteva also started tattooing at the tender age of nine.
During my most recent thrift store trip, I was seeking out a few accessories to begin building an Edwardian outfit for an event in September (and possibly everyday wear...why not, right?). But I ended up finding much more on that adventure...
If you are looking for a great selection of historically accurate shoes, stockings, and accessories, visit the amazing folks at American Duchess:
Thanks to a very cool YouTuber who goes by the name of Bearing. Thanks, Bearing for allowing us all to use and misuse the video in any way we want. I will definitely be using this in future posts and even on occasion in videos as a refute for the very lazy go to argument of "but...but...it's *insert whatever the current year is*!"